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Annie and her husband Colby live in Northern Virginia where Colby serves as the teaching pastor of Pillar Church. Before their church ministry days, they served for two years as IMB missionaries in Iceland. Annie spends her days taking care of her four daughters, writing and ministering at her local church. She shares about motherhood, mayhem, and the meaning of life from a place of transparency at anniebgarman.com.  

Articles by this Author
February 1, 2018 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The details are fuzzy about which persons were involved, but a few years ago someone in our home muttered, “I just want to stick a fork in her eye.” I was simultaneously horrified and empathetic. Someone had been hurt and wanted the perpetrator to experience similar hurt. Whether it’s big or...
October 3, 2017 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently, a church planter’s wife asked me for advice on her situation. I didn’t really premeditate my answer; it just came barreling out. “Be flexible or die … those are your options.” Her eyes got big, and so did mine. The advice was a strong blow to me, too. But, if anyone is looking for a...
August 31, 2017 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I put myself out there, and I was rejected. This morning was not fun as I waded through a major disappointment. Failure, embarrassment, confusion (“God, I thought this was what you wanted me to do!”) and stress all made for a bitter cup to drink all before 9:00 a.m. I need resiliency just like...
June 26, 2017 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I had only been married and in ministry for four weeks when our senior pastor told us we were going to our first ministry conference. I remember feeling like I was faking it or something; I had barely started this new role. Was I really in need of a conference to “revive my weary spirit?” The...
June 8, 2017 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
My friend has six kids who are each involved in multiple activities. Recently, I was trying to get to the bottom of her life. “How do you possibly do it?” I asked one evening. After listening for a while, I discovered her secret. She’s not afraid to enlist help. Neighbors help with rides to...
February 7, 2017 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Lately, I have felt the opposite of strong and courageous, so when I was asked to write about this topic, I was all ears. I knew writing would force me into God’s Word about the subject, and boy, did I need a refresher. “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them,...
December 8, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
In my last post, we talked about everyone’s favorite topic, receiving reproof. I mean, who doesn’t love a hard conversation where someone sees something in our actions, words or character that needs to be corrected? I come from a sarcastic home, and (hopefully you’re tracking with me) listening...
December 5, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I can remember clearly where I was standing the first time it happened. I was engaged, and we were standing outside my fiance’s dorm room on a cold spring day. He was talking in a very serious voice, one that I hadn’t yet heard. I had done something wrong, and he was correcting me. I started to...
October 31, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Today finds me sitting on a lava rock in the middle of the North Atlantic Ocean. More specifically, in Reykjavik, Iceland. But, considering I am surrounded by lava fields in most directions I look, this volcanic island sure feels like a lava rock. Me, my husband and our four kids have been living...
September 29, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This summer has been rough in some ways. Not in every way, of course. I did spend the entire summer in a tourist destination, hiking volcanoes, soaking in hot springs, touching glaciers and chasing waterfalls. But, of course, you can’t run away from your problems—especially if you are the problem.
August 8, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
After using all my energy to sit up, I asked my nine-year-old if she’d be willing to bring me cereal in bed because it was, after all, Mother’s Day. “Mother’s DAY?!” She had apparently forgotten. I reminded her that she had made me a card earlier in the week and it was waiting, unopened, on my...
July 11, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I never thought I had an issue with forgiveness. I mean, in my sheltered life, I’ve never been abused or victimized. My husband has always been faithful to me. In general, I hadn’t suffered grave offenses warranting major forgiveness.
April 29, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
When I got pregnant in early 2010, I feared that something was wrong with our baby. Perhaps it was because I was meeting more and more parents of children with health issues. It felt like only a matter of time before it was our turn. On March...
March 21, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Aisle Two was not the place to be this morning. Today at WalMart, I heard a Dad completely lose his temper with his toddler. In the next aisle over, another shopper and I made eye contact with raised eyebrows as we both knew what the other was...
February 10, 2016 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Last year I started a ministry to internationals at our church. We live in the suburbs of Washington D.C. where the nations have gathered in our backyard. I felt unqualified to start this ministry because I still had two children in diapers and...
November 2, 2015 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Last weekend, my husband and I had the opportunity to talk to a room of church planters and their wives. I was able to read the following letter to the men in the room who were embarking on a journey of starting a church from scratch. If some...
June 1, 2015 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
It hasn’t just been one conversation. It has been multiple conversations. Recently someone was sharing with me her qualms with social media. “The problem with Facebook …” was how she started. I listened to her points about miscommunications...
March 15, 2015 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
What does it look like to be a mom on mission? When I got pregnant with my first child, I remember thinking, "God, is this really the most effective way for your gospel to spread? For me to have a full-time job caring for a small baby, changing...
February 6, 2015 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Loving will almost always require inconvenience. At least that’s what I’ve been learning lately. Recently God began prodding my heart to reach out and love the internationals in our community through starting an ESL (English as a Second...
January 30, 2015 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This morning my eight year old and I found a quiet moment to read a devotional together. “The Lord is our Shepherd,” the page read, “Always watching over us and protecting us.” I began to read the line and then purposefully skipped over the...
November 19, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
College dorm life was a dream come true for an extrovert like me.  Coming from a small family with only one brother, I loved having seventy girls on my hall to hang out with at any hour of the day.  Not only that, but each of my roommates became...
October 6, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently I called two friends and asked if we could get together for prayer and accountability.  I knew it wasn’t going to be much fun.  I mean, I would have much rather asked them to go to Applebees for a Triple Chocolate Meltdown, but I knew I...
September 17, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Well, it happened.   I have heard of it happening to others, but never imagined it would happen to me.  Everything was packed and ready for our mission trip to Iceland.  I was taking a team from our church to Reykjavik...
September 1, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The day after I deep clean has historically been a very rough one. I cringe (on a good day, worse on a bad day) as I stand watching my hard, sweaty work completely UNRAVEL before my very eyes. In most cases I have to step outside and...
May 5, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We’ve bought the line, “Preach the gospel at all times; when necessary, use words."   

[This quote has been falsely attributed to St. Francis of Assisi. See Gospel Coalition 's and Christianity Today...
May 2, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
  In my last blog post , I encouraged all of us ministry wives to be a strong evangelistic example in our churches. This is hard. And it doesn’t make it any easier just because we’re married to a pastor. When I...
April 30, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The other day it struck me. Don’t get too excited. Most of you will either furrow your brow or roll your eyes at my epiphany, because, yes, DUH…this is an obvious one. However, it became real and clear and loud to me...
March 12, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Now, I realize there’s a danger of blame shifting here. I don’t want to sound entirely passive, as though I don’t have a sin nature that doesn’t get self-absorbed and easily angered. I do. But there are times that denying a spiritual element is...
February 19, 2014 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Today I called my friend who just happens to be a pastor’s wife. “How are ya?” I ask casually. “Not good,” she says, not trying to pretend in the least.   My ears perk up and I can feel myself getting excited by her rawness....
June 14, 2013 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Jerry Falwell died before I was able to ask him my question.                It really is unfortunate since I have had multiple conversations in my head with him, discussing this issue near and dear to...
Not a Competition Blog Post
January 1, 2012 by Annie B Garman | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I’m sitting here crying... black rivers running down my blush pink cheeks. It all started last night when I had a Mary Kay consultant over to showcase her products and give me a makeover. I built it up in my mind, which is something they say...