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Kathy lives in Mobile, AL with her husband Ed Litton, pastor of Redemption Church. Both lost former spouses in car accidents, and God uniquely gave them new love and life together in 2009. Kathy enjoyed 26 years of life and ministry alongside Rick Ferguson. She has 3 children and 9 grandchildren. Presently, Kathy serves at NAMB as National Consultant for Ministry to Pastors' Wives.
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April 17, 2018 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Some of you may know I have a new role at NAMB. I am no longer leading a ministry to pastors' wives generally, but now more specifically as the Director of Planter Spouse Care. That means I am on a new team (Send Network), with a new assignment to serve and develop planters’ wives. Honestly, I...
April 5, 2018 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“Love your enemies” -- Jesus Perhaps this is among Jesus' most revolutionary statements — and certainly most humanly counterintuitive. We already were struggling to “love our neighbor,” and then He throws this at us. Seriously, Jesus? Our enemies? He did have plenty. And even a frenemy or two....
February 22, 2018 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I once read a tweet by Beth Moore that said, "Sometimes we listen best when we cannot see." Her words reminded me of life-giving truth from my early season of widowhood and grief in a small devotion by Elisabeth Elliot. Her words literally lit the pathway of my heart, my faith, and my steps. My...
January 15, 2018 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Jesus gives the Sermon on the Mount in order to produce disciples living a lifestyle of the kingdom of God, which will create a spiritual impact on the nations. As we look at the Sermon on the Mount over the next few weeks, we will clearly see that the ultimate goal of this sermon is...
January 8, 2018 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Fresh titles keep coming at us but, let’s be honest, we don’t have enough time and money to read them all! Let’s also admit that far too many seemingly popular, trending books disappoint us. Lots. That is why I love recommendations. It gives me chance to process how others are affected and...
November 20, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
One of the simplest reasons why people are lost is their refusal to accept Christ. However, if you were to ask people why, there would be as many answers as there are lost souls. In Ephesians the apostle Paul, under the inspiration of the Holy Spirit, gave insight into lostness. First, he said...
November 13, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Today, we will launch a short but much-needed conversation. It is a conversation about the need for evangelism within our roles as ministry leaders. Usually we write on topics we love, are fluent in or have had a measure of success in. None of those things will be the case for me nor for the...
October 30, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This opening line grabbed me, “Sometimes I think that introverts and extroverts are from different planets, and I am not alone in picturing it that way.” The differences between introverts and extroverts are profound. Most of us readily accept and agree with that. But what if an introvert marries...
October 19, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Our firstborn, Brett, had just arrived in our arms and in our hearts. We were 22 and full of the wonder of childbirth and parenting. My husband, Rick, was a youth minister at a church. Seven days after our son arrived, Rick was called upon to visit an ill baby born the same day as Brett. A large...
October 5, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently, my husband was invited to contribute to a LifeWay resource called Pray Like This: Living the Lord's Prayer. The video he created was posted on social media; the response was tremendous. Many liked, shared and responded to his brief yet impactful testimony. Like myself, Ed Litton lost...
September 7, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
There is a noticeable common thread in most successful people—they are teachable. And correspondingly the opposite is true—the unteachable are stunted, ineffective or lack measurable success. Being teachable raises the ceiling in all areas of our lives—intellectually, relationally, emotionally,...
August 24, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently, we asked women this question, “What qualities and characteristics should healthy and effective ministry wives cultivate into their lives?“ Two features—godly character and personal spiritual vitality—were nearly tied for first. This was a fascinating result because they are closely...
August 21, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently, we asked women this question, “What qualities and characteristics should healthy and effective ministry wives cultivate into their lives? “ We polled the results by providing a list of 12 words and having them rank each in order of significance. The results were insightful. At the top...
August 7, 2017 by Christine Hoover, Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Based on her recently released book, Messy, Beautiful Friendship, Christine Hoover unpacks realities about friendships that women rarely discuss. On the surface, friendships appear to be innate, easy and natural for most women, but the truth is, they're complicated. As the title suggests,...
June 29, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
A ministry wife often hesitates to call herself a leader. We shy away from the “leader” label. Yet every single one of us is. Some may like it. Some may not. But it is unwise for us to resist, ignore or deny it. We're leaders, and so, embracing the leadership role will help us begin to steward it...
June 12, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This morning I will be introducing Kay Warren as she speaks to hundreds of ministry wives in our tribe called Southern Baptists. Her new book Sacred Privilege: Your Life and Ministry as a Pastor’s Wife has just recently released. Her book first captured my heart when I read, “Personal Tribute"...
June 5, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Every relationship in life is built on a foundation that cannot be ignored. This foundation affects your marriage, family, work, ministry and your ability to connect with your community. It is also is critical element in all areas leadership and creating influence. It is a basic competency that...
May 29, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The internet is watching us. We are increasingly becoming aware that the internet knows us too well. It even knows what we read in our Bibles. In 2014, Amazon released data it secured by watching us. Not only does Amazon see what we read on our Kindles, it also sees what we highlight. Amazon’s...
May 18, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
When my mother died, I held on to the worn, dingy safety belt that adorned her waist for the last eight years of her life. A stroke and series of other brain incidents made her a fall risk. While she primarily existed in a wheel chair for the remainder of her life, she always wore this belt,...
May 15, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
C..S Lewis wrote The Screwtape Letters in February 1942. He penned a series of fictitious letters between Screwtape, a senior demon and his nephew Wormwood, a demon-in-training. The Screwtape Letters consists of advice in tempting a Christian (known as “the Patient”) away from God (known as "the...
April 13, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Sitting in my inbox was an email from the Loft with a subject line that read: “Kathy, Still Looking for a Top to Love?” The Loft’s website is intuitive. Some call it “artificial intuition,” but in reality the website is able to observe my actual behavior and my interests on their site. They store...
March 20, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The face in the mirror is the person hardest for me to lead. Yet I have learned in leading her well, I will lead others more fully.
February 27, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“I wasn’t God’s first choice for what I’ve done for China. I don’t know who it was. It must have been a well-educated man. I don’t know what happened. Perhaps he died. Perhaps he wasn’t willing and God looked down and saw Gladys Aylward. And God said – 'Well, she’s willing.' ” —Gladys Aylward,...
February 14, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
As we conclude this series on True Bravery, we end with the ultimate factor that produces our willingness to be brave. If this feature isn’t present in us, we may never demonstrate courage, bravery or conviction. What is it? Vulnerability. The word vulnerability is trending in most conversations...
January 11, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
In our previous blog, we issued a call to show daring courage and take necessary risk for things eternally true found in the gospel of Jesus Christ. So what does true bravery look like? True bravery will not look like how the world flaunts it. True bravery will be quieter, less applauded and...
January 9, 2017 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Flourish unintentionally started a New Year's tradition by discussing valuable lessons learned in the previous year. Each new year we select a theme from significant news stories, cultural trends or spiritual observations to create a blog series. These words by John R. Stott have deeply impacted...
December 22, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
A statement on Twitter three years ago revolutionized my version of baby Jesus in the manger. It said, "Jesus did not come as a helpless baby. He came to helpless people.” Honestly, I was stunned by this language. It illuminated something very, very important. Traditionally, our version of the...
December 15, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
It's happened to all of us. We say and do some unusual things. Things can get awkward, strange or just plain weird. Here are a few "You know you are a pastor's wife if ..." moments.
November 21, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Waiting for the bus in a frigid, biting wind reminded us of the ease of transportation we had left behind. Grandparents, who used to live so close, are now 26 hours away. Favorite babysitters, comfortable friendships and financial security are suddenly placed in the rear view mirror of our...
November 14, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
"As the Father sent me so send I you" (John 20:21). Sent is a word straight from the lips of Jesus. He was the model of what being "sent" means. He was sent on a particular mission: "For the Son of Man has come to seek and to save that which was lost” (Luke 19:10).
October 13, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Never in my lifetime have relationships been so critical for leaders. Our culture is crying out for authenticity, community and transparency.
September 19, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Today we launch a series on Finding Ourselves IN the Psalms. You will hear diverse voices share intimate spiritual work with honesty and vulnerability before God. We follow in the footsteps of the original authors who were willing to chronicle their work of the soul before a holy and loving God.
September 5, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The pen is in your hand, the card opened and yet you are paralyzed. What should you say to recognize loss? We truly do want to say something meaningful. Yet we are writing to a fragile heart. Most of us are wise enough to realize we have potential to help or hurt in this small but important gesture.
June 2, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Stories stick. People remember them. Let’s not kid ourselves both as parents and leaders. We may think it is our most inspired words or profound teachings that shape the people around us. Yet, it is the little things people remember—like telling real, honest stories.
May 5, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We love drawing your attention to great resources. Today we are interviewing fellow ministry wife Holly Shivers, author of two amazing books for kids. These are perfect pieces to add to your family time. I admit a huge bias here because one of my...
April 13, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
 wrote the blog below on the 10th anniversary of my husband Rick Ferguson’s death in a terrible car accident. It was a place of tremendous loss for me and my family. A place — I would come to see — that would be ripe for...
April 4, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Today we launch a new series on how to endure adversity, struggle, and loss well. Suffering and hardship are encountered by all humanity. In fact pain is the one commodity that puts all humanity on equal footing because young, old,...
March 31, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Yes, I know that title is a bit tricky for ministry types. Our primary goal is not necessarily getting people to like us. I get that. YET, we meet lots of people. We have brief encounters, quick introductions and rapid get-acquainted moments...
March 24, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This blog by Michael Kelly was posted on my last birthday. I read and reread this piece. Michael described something I had experienced but could not clearly articulate. There is a cycle of knowing God more deeply while also seeing ourselves...
March 10, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
At the Pastor's Wives conference of the SBC this summer, we had a helpful conversation with Faith Whatley, Director of Adult Ministry at Lifeway Christian Resources. We welcome Faith to Flourish. She shared her thoughts on...
March 7, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Leaning into leadership means pressing into learning and growing as leaders. The resource most readily available to us? Great books. We can glean from wide array of sources, those that address the soul of leaders as well as skills of...
February 22, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
For our series on leadership we are reposting this old blog on blindspots. Leaders, especially ones that are experienced and have growing platform, are prone to have few people speak into their lives. This is true for ministry leaders as well....
February 1, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Ministry wives have a great capacity for leadership. We all are uniquely empowered and gifted to lead. Yet we seldom discuss our role as leaders. I am borrowing the phrase "Lean In" from Sheryl Sandberg's national best selling book of the same...
January 6, 2016 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Flourish will continue a New Year practice of identifying a specific critical ministry lesson from the previous year. In preceding years we have looked back at the example of Rick and Kay Warren in the national and devastating loss of their son...
December 29, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We're re-posting some of our favorite blog posts from 2015. Kathy's post from October 5, 2015 is a much needed reminder as we seek to minister through inviting others into our home. If you were to interview my grown children about childhood...
December 7, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“Come over to Macedonia to help us.”  Macedonia? Let me translate that for you: “far from family.” In November of 1990 my late husband Rick Ferguson received a letter from a noted leader in the city of Denver who urged him to consider moving...
October 8, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The New Testament abruptly righted my lens in regard to hospitality versus entertaining when I got schooled by the actually meanings of two Greek words. One word for hospitality is philoxenia; the word literally means, "to love strangers."...
September 17, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We discussed YOUR social skills a few weeks ago. Soon after writing that piece I ran across some staggering results of study regarding children and THEIR social skills. Quite unexpectedly a childs social skills are POWERFUL predictors of...
August 31, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently a blog posted on Desiring God by Stacy Reaoch caught my attention. There isn't a space in our lives where we won't encounter difficult people in the workplace, in our communities and in our churches. Relating and connecting with...
August 24, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Our lives demand social skills! Some of us have them naturally and are inclined to be a high touch person. Yet others want to flee situations that require small talk or the processes getting acquainted. Social skills may be innate but they can...
July 30, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“The goodness gospel is a friend as long as life is neat and tidy …” -  Christine Hoover,  Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel My life suddenly was NOT neat and tidy when I was widowed thirteen years ago. My favorite line from...
July 23, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
This was one of my favorite chapters. It took me far too long to understand that salvation was in fact a rescue. Not only a rescue FROM something — but also a rescue TO something. We are rescued to true freedom. His grace sets us free. “Grace...
July 13, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
(The Flourish summer series is a blog crawl through Christine Hoover's book "From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel."  For the next three weeks we will share our personal take aways and highlights in our blogs. We hope you have a...
June 26, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Join us this summer in reading through the new book  From Good to Grace: Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel by Christine Hoover. What is the big idea about Letting Go of the Goodness Gospel? It’s the story of a pastor’s wife, actually a church...
June 24, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“Get out your cell phones." When is that ever said in a gathering? During the annual meeting of the Southern Baptist Convention we gathered 800 plus women in a room to have a very intimate conversation. Sort of. And we got to keep our...
May 26, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Each year, at the annual gathering of Southern Baptists, there are events that women need to be aware of. If you are traveling to Columbus Ohio for the 2015 SBC , you may want to consider these opportunities. Pastors’ Wives Session Monday...
May 21, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Flourish launches a new blog category all about our latest fav's. We look forward to sharing on a monthly basis what we are reading, eating, cooking, hearing, or doing. You will see links to items that catch our attention as being helpful, fun,...
May 11, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Matt Chandler, lead pastor of The Village Church , wades into dangerous waters with his sermon series called Beautiful Design . The series is about God's purpose and God's design in men and women, and how we interact with one another. A timely...
May 7, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
On Mother’s day the year I was 28, I was just hours away from giving birth to my youngest son. Being a dutiful pastor’s wife I went into labor at 1:30 am on Monday thoughtfully allowing Rick to complete his Sunday responsibilities. At...
April 6, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Spiritual maturity contains amazing ironies. It is strange mixture of progressive growth while simultaneously still experiencing fresh wonders. New truths are revealed from old scriptures. Progress can mean being “weaker” — not always...
March 30, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Raise your hand if you like to receive correction? Just what I suspected — none of us. Whether it is in marriage, the workplace, or at church, receiving correction is tough. Yet it is an inescapable fact that correction is a HUGE tool for...
March 6, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I have a confession. Granted, I will never be confused as a fashionista—my wardrobe far too full of workout gear, flip flops and comfy but boring items to suggest otherwise. So the upcoming confession is no real news. In a rush before church...
February 18, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“Love your enemies” —  Jesus. Perhaps this is among His most revolutionary statements and certainly most humanly counterintuitive. We were already struggling to “love our neighbor” and then He throws this at us. Seriously, Jesus? Our enemies?...
Love Is Work Blog Post
February 2, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
It’s February, the LOVE month. You know “Roses are red, Violets are blue.......” We either dread this month or embrace the whole Valentines thing. It’s a marketing windfall (to the tune of $18 billion) and high season for the romantics among us....
January 28, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“I wanted to change the world, but I couldn’t find a babysitter,” said a mother. Motherhood creates the most powerful universal connection of every tribe, tongue and generation of women on this planet. Once a child has been placed in your arms...
January 14, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
In Monday’s blog we identified the biggest ministry lesson from 2014 to be the racial divide and the gospel . Our love for all people created in the image of God PLUS the unyielding belief in the power of the gospel requires something from us,...
January 12, 2015 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Unintentionally in 2014, Flourish started a new year practice of identifying the biggest ministry lesson of the previous year. We wrote about Rick and Kay Warren’s national visibility in loss of their son. We felt strongly their powerful...
December 10, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
As spiritual leaders we come alongside people often in the midst of losses.  We are asked to wade into the deep waters of their grief.  And most of us feel entirely inadequate. We want to run away not into it. We fear we will harm instead of help....
Thanksgiving Links Blog Post
November 26, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
For women the holidays are really like running a marathon while simultaneously being responsible for food and lodging for eight. That being said as a blog editor I am trying to picture you sitting down and reading Thanksgiving blogs in the midst...
November 24, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Generosity is not only about money. There is more than one currency. Let your generosity be pervasive in life. — Tim Keller The generous soul will be made rich, and he who waters will also be watered himself. — Proverbs 11:25 Have you ever...
Semper Fidelis Blog Post
November 13, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
My life includes zero exposure to military culture so I rarely think in that genre. Yet recently I found myself thinking in military terms as I met with ministry wives and ministry women during recent international trip. I have heard the Marines...
Ohio Penguins Blog Post
November 13, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton
Penguins? Yes, penguins. In the past two years I have been beating this drum to ministry wives: “You have influence!” Michael Hyatt recently recounted an unusual story of the power of influence—complete with three ideas that even translate to...
November 10, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Jesus ate with sinners. Repeatedly. Then all the tax collectors and the sinners drew near to Him to hear Him. And the Pharisees and scribes complained, saying, “ This Man receives sinners and eats with them. ” Luke 15: 1-2 Now it happened, as...
November 7, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new. - 2 Corinthians 5:17 My mind wandered to the Kathy in her twenties the other day. I looked in the rear view mirror and pondered...
November 3, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Having raised three kids and now watching my kids raise their kids I know how critical it is that the Word of God is taught at home. Parents cannot outsource this responsibility. We often stumble because we feel inept or unsure as what works....
October 10, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
You should serve in the local church. It is dangerous to assume all ministry wives serve. There may be a season when we are unable to take a regular place of service but we are not exempt from being a functioning member of the body of...
September 29, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Friendship is tricky for us. It’s a much-discussed topic for our tribe. Under the heading of “Friendship” we have many sub-headings of familiar issues. We have the well-worn conversations about boundaries in our friendships. Add to that...
September 10, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
I loved this book. While I never was a PK myself, I did raise three. Thirty years ago, in the throes of parenting this resource would have helped us immensely. Reading it made me long for some do-overs and also encouraged me in things we...
June 9, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We are not haplessly at the mercy of our emotions or our circumstances. We have choices. Responses driven by our feelings can be dangerous. Those feelings may be true but they are not truth. We have been given the power of the Holy Spirit to give...
June 6, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Leadership is often an uncomfortable topic for ministry wives. As I have interacted with hundreds of wives I have been surprised to learn that many hesitate to see themselves as leader. Yet we are leaders. If you have influence (and we do), you...
June 2, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
1. Not everyone is going to like you. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be liked. Yet it cannot be the measure of our success or effectiveness. While many will give you “thumbs up” not all will. 2. Few people will be completely authentic...
May 28, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Everyday life provides the battlefields on which our character  (see Character... What Everyday Life Says About Us - Part I) wins or loses. The mundane moments expose our character far more than we realize. Paul David Tripp calls them “10,000...
May 23, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Why character? Because people watch leaders. Some of you hate that notion. They watch not only WHAT we do but also WHO we are. I (Kathy) learned valuable lessons during the outpouring of notes and emails to me upon my husband’s death. Rick’s...
May 9, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
(Or even better title might be “6 Free Mother’s Day Gifts for your Wife.” That might get your attention, gentlemen.) The Bible says, “ live with your wife in an understanding way…. ” ( 1 Peter 3:7 ). You may not...
April 25, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Deep down we may wrestle thinking that we need to seem interesting, fascinating or charming in our interaction with people. Not true. In fact, “be interested” may be an indictor of a true leader. And be infinitely more magnetic socially. Push the...
February 26, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Surveillance. Is that a bit dramatic? No.   During recent spin class I introduced myself to a new, unfamiliar instructor “Hi, I’m Kathy”. Warmly she says, “You’re Kathy Litton aren’t you?” Immediately, a reminder that I am often known...
February 14, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
What is the best thing you can do for your husband? Love him. Love him. Love him. My love does something no one else’s love does. Here are six: • My love gives my husband courage. You know that line about the love of God, “If God is for...
January 31, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Small talk—the very words paralyzes some. Others have mastered it. Meeting new faces and striking up conversations is a part of life and VERY much a part of ministry life. Moving our conversations PAST small talk into deeper more meaningful...
January 17, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
A picture of ourselves, taken by ourselves. Oxford’s 2013 Word of the Year was “selfie”—a signal that the digital self-portrait explosion has gone wild globally. We stage the perfect shot as vehicle in creating an identity we desire. We let...
January 8, 2014 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
The eye-rolling preteen. I’ve been her.  It’s predictable that somewhere between 9-16 a child will lose sight of the intelligence of their parents. Later, depending on the wisdom of said child, their parents become their go-to when buying...
November 27, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
  I'm addicted to the pithy quotes that hammer us on Twitter, Facebook and Instagram and Pinterest. Without some careful examination we may retweet or like some pretty errant ideas. "Oh, that is a Hindu mantra from Starbucks cup? Oops."...
November 20, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
We continue Monday’s post with the third feature of ministry life that creates a unique environment in which we work out “Our Sorrow.”   3- A potential bitterness battle.   Jeana Floyd, a dear friend and my pastor’s wife...
Our Sorrow Blog Post
November 18, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
“Sorrow has a large family.” Pain puts all humanity on equal footing. The young, old, rich, poor, educated or uneducated will taste sorrow.     Once I received note of encouragement where the writer summed up sources of...
October 21, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton
{Flourish kicks off a new blog category called "ABC's for Ministry Wives". These words will represent features we think every wife should consider as she walks out her role in ministry. Note for our orderly types-these will not be in...
August 14, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Recently I read a tweet by Beth Moore that said: "Sometimes we listen best when we cannot see." Her words reminded me of life giving truth from my early season of widowhood and grief in a small devotion by Elisabeth Elliot. Her words literally...
August 5, 2013 by Kathy Ferguson Litton
  1- Genuinely loving and caring for people is foundational. When a church or community detects our sincere love we have begun to earn the right to lead and serve them. And they will be more astute to this fact than we can possibly...
January 1, 2012 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Ten years ago today unexpected, unwanted circumstances invaded my life. I became a widow and my children lost their father. We joined the masses of innumerable families where death visited far too soon. God was behaving unpredictably. We wanted...
January 1, 2012 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Warning: This post is going to be painful. It will date me clearly as the 55-year-old woman I am. In 1976 when I married, as a 19-year-old girl, (you were warned), my mother gave me a classic 70s handmade plaque. Crafts did exist before Pinterest...
January 1, 2012 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
My worship was radically changed on Sunday morning, July 28, 2002, in Denver, Colorado. It had never been more difficult for me to take my usual pastor’s wife place at Riverside Baptist Church—only I was no longer the pastor’s wife and my...
January 1, 2012 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
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January 1, 2012 by Kathy Ferguson Litton | Flourish - Ministry Wives
Thanksgiving, that day for saying "thanks", may actually feel unbearable. When a holiday collides with grief, loss or more pain than blessings gathering round that turkey will take everything we have and then some. Some years ago my family faced...