Becoming Winsome In Ministry
Our church had an active women’s Bible study that was holding our very first women’s conference. I was excited because our main speaker, Marge Caldwell, was a famed speaker and teacher from Houston, Texas.
Marge had a huge national following and was known for her humor and wit. But she also had the spiritual gift of teaching. She was insightful and could pull deep truths from Scripture. I was especially thrilled that she would be staying in our home and that I would have some time with her alone. I was curious about what made Marge tick and was fervently hoping I could absorb some of her stellar qualities just by being around her for a couple of days.
Our daughters were in elementary school at the time. They were very curious about our house guest. When I introduced them, Marge promptly sat down on our sofa and asked them to join her. They began to eagerly converse about their day, their school, friends, likes, and dislikes. You name it, they discussed it.
I remember watching this scenario and thinking, “She’s talking to them like they were real people!” After about 20 minutes, they were all BFFs, and Marge was the topic of family conversations for a long time after the conference. According to its definition, 'winsome' is defined as “generally pleasing and engaging; a childlike charm, one who causes pleasure, appealing.”
Let’s look at those qualities a little closer:
- Upbeat — A woman who is positive and generally cheerful; one who looks for the best in people and in situations. In my opinion, it also means a woman who does not take herself too seriously. She can laugh at herself.
- Childlike charm — There is a mountain of difference between childishness and childlikeness. Childishness carries the meaning of selfishness and immaturity, but childlikeness implies innocence or simple trust. How appealing is that in a person!? No sneering cynicism, sarcasm or skepticism but a winsome woman looks for and believes in the best in others. If you have been in ministry for awhile, this can be challenging.
- One who causes pleasure — A woman who is genuinely interested in others rather than herself is a winsome woman. I doubt if Marge Caldwell really wanted to know what was going on in the third grade at Peters Elementary, but you sure could have fooled me that day. A person who is interested in others invites conversation and sharing on a deeper level. A winsome woman can forget about herself.
In the context of ministry life, winsomeness takes on even more weight. As we meet people who know nothing of the saving grace of Christ, we must be winsome witnesses. As we help bear others burdens, we must do it with winsomeness. As we grow older, we are winsome when we encourage the younger generation and believe in them. We are winsome when we refuse to look back at hurts, but look forward to God’s blessings.
The Old English root of “winsome” is wynn, which means “joy.” And that says it all.