How Does a Pastor Respond To: ‘When is My Child Ready for Baptism?’

By Mark Hallock

“When is my child ready for baptism?”

This is a great question and one I have been asked many times over the years in ministry. The bottom line is that everywhere Jesus went, He was preaching the gospel and calling individuals to “repent, believe and be baptized.” This is the proper response of a person – adult or child – whose heart and mind has been made new by grace, through Christ and His Spirit. Repent, believe, be baptized.

The question is, however, how we know if a child is ready. How do we know if a child is truly regenerated – has genuinely surrendered to Christ in heart, mind and will – and is therefore now ready to be baptized? Practically, we as pastors, along with a child’s parents, need to do all we can to discern whether true repentance and faith is present in this child.

Here are the four big questions that guide me as I help the child and their parents in this process. (I use these 4 questions in assessing the readiness of an adult for baptism as well.)

1) Is there knowledge? Does this child have a right and proper knowledge and understanding of the gospel of Jesus Christ and of baptism? Can they articulate this?

2) Is there brokenness? Has this child been truly broken over their sin and not just the consequences of their sin? Are they heartbroken over the fact they have sinned against a holy God and now realize Jesus alone can save them?

3) Is there repentance? Does this child desire to repent, or turn, from their sin and toward Christ by faith? Does their brokenness over sin lead to active repentance and faith in Christ?

4) Is there a treasuring? Does this child see and savor Jesus as the greatest treasure of their life?

Typically, these four questions help the child, the parents and me discern whether the child is ready for baptism. Many times, after I ask these, parents are like, “Yes, we have seen not only knowledge, but authentic brokenness and repentance in Cindy.” Or “Oh no, we have never seen Timothy broken and repentant over his sin, though he definitely has knowledge of the gospel and can articulate it.” Or, “I would not say Max truly treasures Jesus at this point in his life.” If it seems questionable whether a young person is ready to be baptized, I simply encourage parents to wait until they see more evidence and fruit of regeneration.

At the end of the day, we as pastors do the best we can. Sometimes it is a tough call and, in those cases, if the child’s parents are mature Christ-followers, I often will take the lead from them. If it is difficult for me to discern one way or another, I usually will trust the parents since, ultimately, they are the spiritual shepherds of their kids.

Published February 17, 2023

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Mark Hallock

Mark Hallock serves as the lead pastor of Calvary Church in Englewood, Colorado. He also serves as president of the Calvary Family of Churches, a group committed to planting and replanting churches for the glory of God (thecalvary.org). His great desire is to see the gospel transform lives and neighborhoods through the planting of new congregations, along with the revitalization of declining congregations, throughout the city of Denver and beyond. Mark’s favorite hobby is hanging out with his wife, Jenna, and their two kids, Zoe and Eli.