Today’s post by Barry Rager gives us much to consider when we think about the importance of leading our families just as strategically as we lead churches. Perhaps this blog will fuel a discussion in your home. This post first appeared on Brian Howard’s blog.
After a rough few months as a family, my wife looked at me with tears in her eyes and said something simple yet profound. “When you see a problem with the church, you strategize, seek counsel, plan, and take action. But when it comes to difficult times in our family, you expect things to change with little to no purposeful planning. Can you understand how that would frustrate and hurt me?”
Humbled by the truth in her statement, I began considering how I could put the same effort into my family that I was putting into making sure my church plant was healthy. The conclusion I came to was that I should make a Strategic Family Plan. A Strategic Family Plan would include ideas for how to make my marriage and family stronger, along with some measurable steps that my wife and I could take together. Here are the reasons why I think you should develop a family plan too:
1) Your family is a higher responsibility than your ministry/job.
Outside of your relationship with God, your family is the most important part of your life. To achieve our ministry and occupational goals, we often organize lists, set up charts, and create spreadsheets. Not only is our family just as worthy of planning and engineering as our jobs, but it is also just as in need of these processes as well.
2) If you do not dictate your family’s resources, something else will.
Without a Strategic Family Plan, emergencies and other activities will overrun your schedule. You may recognize problems yet never find the time to address them because others outside your family are more demanding or aggressive. Someone or something will set the agenda for your family, make a plan and take control.
3) Your desires for your family take intentionality.
It is naïve to believe that love conquers and solves all. Yes, love is key, but so is effort. You can care greatly for your family and have wonderful aspirations, but if you lack intentionality, your family will not progress towards those goals.
4) A plan creates a united front for moving your family forward.
Families operate with a limited amount of time, energy and money. If there is no plan, each family member will spend their resources on what they deem most urgent. How much more effective could the families’ collective efforts be when a plan unites them all? No one’s goals are competing, and everyone operates with a singular focus on common objectives. As an added bonus, acting as a cohesive group brings unity and presents the opportunity for communal celebration as progress is made.
In part 2 of “How a Family Plan Could Change Everything,” we will talk about how to write a family plan and develop a schedule that works for everyone.
Barry Rager is a church planter at New Circle Church in Indianapolis, Indiana. He has been married to his wife Amy for over ten years, and they have four children – Yonas, Titus, Fable, and Justus. Barry holds a Master of Arts in Pastoral Ministry and is currently pursuing his Master of Divinity from the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. You can connect with Barry on Twitter @barryrager.
Published October 12, 2015
