Adopting and fostering podcast breaks myths, shares insights


Lynette Tera

By Josie Bingham

Lynette Ezell and Tera Melber shared many joys, frustrations, challenges and triumphs over the last 15 years as their families have journeyed through the process of adopting children. Now, they are sharing that experience and knowledge with others as they host the North American Mission Board’s “Adopting and Fostering Home” podcast.

The two friends use the podcast as a platform to encourage and equip God’s people and the Church to battle for the hearts and lives of children at risk.

“We believe that if the Church is going to champion the cause of foster care and adoption, the Church has to be prepared for what that means on a daily basis,” Melber says.

Melber and Ezell would know. They have watched their daughters and sons process and make sense of birth stories and unanswered questions.

“As they work through their beginnings and the implications of their stories, there have been times when I have really understood Romans 12:15,” says Melber. “Paul writes, ‘Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep.’ Adoption is beautiful yet complex. Through our parenting journeys, we have experienced some of the highest highs and the lowest lows.”

The “Adopting and Fostering Home” podcast walks with singles, couples, parents, empty nesters and those curious about foster care and adoption through the beginnings, myths and lessons of the calling with candor.

“We have a wide age range in our house,” Melber says. “So, in one day’s time, I could be talking to our oldest children about adult things, or helping the younger ones with Algebra and Latin homework and teaching our 15-year-old how to drive. And all of this would likely occur after a room meeting for our fifth grader.”

But it’s not the juggling multiple schedules that makes their families unique.  

“Add to that, on any given day, we could receive a letter from a birth mom in the mail, have an unkind comment made to our child due to the color of their skin or discuss a future of returning to their homeland,” says Melber. “You know, typical stuff.”

Because the adopting and fostering life can get extraordinarily messy, Ezell embraces the power of transparency in adopting and fostering.

“I believe we dig deep and bring transparency to the table,” Ezell says of the podcast, but also of her adoptive home. “Adoption isn't all cute babies and colorful families. It's a lifelong call to tough parenting with no-strings-attached love.”

The podcast is designed to motivate the Church and to surround adoptive and foster families with love and support.

“We don't want adoptive and foster families to feel isolated or alone in this calling,” says Ezell. “It's a tactic the enemy uses to defeat us. We want to battle that with hope, encouragement and truth from God's Word. He loves our kids more than we ever could. They were His before they were ours, and we know He alone will bring our families to completion.

“The honor of knowing these children and getting to do life with them is beyond amazing,” Ezell continues. “He is a champion of the fatherless; I love seeing Him work all things for His glory!”

Those who listen to the “Adopting and Fostering Home” podcast have heard Ezell and Melber discuss some of the most difficult challenges they’ve faced over the last decade and a half—things like not understanding the system or the inability to erase all children's past pains.

“We may not always agree with the law,” says Melber. “It does not always seem to support the best interest of the children. Yet, through adoption and foster care, I have a deeper trust in the Lord and His sovereign hand. In a sense, this journey has forced me to trust the Lord more than I thought I was capable.”

“Learning to navigate such an unpredictable, broken system is challenging,” Ezell agrees. “The lines are blurred. Adopting and fostering families grow weary of waiting or fighting the government's changing policies. And though these faithful families are in the trenches with these wounded little ones, they sometimes aren't listened to or supported very well.

“The hardest part of adoption for me is my inability to erase all my children's past pains,” says Ezell. “Trauma doesn't tell time; it can hide for a very long time then hit them blindsided. I don't want the enemy to ever convince them they're unworthy because their birth parents had to release them. I want to see them embrace God's plan for their lives and know a beautiful life of kingdom work.”

Both Melber, whose husband, David is vice president of Send Relief at NAMB, and Ezell, whose husband, Kevin, is NAMB’s president, share how opening their hearts, homes and lives to adoption has changed the fabric of their families and church families.

“Kevin, and I are seeing our children wrap their arms around this calling as well,” Ezell says. “Our oldest daughter and her husband have adopted domestically, and our second oldest and her husband are about to receive their first foster placement. Our family is close, and we support one another as the Lord leads each of us.”

Ezell attributes the adaptive and loving nature of this difficult journey to “open hands and holding our schedules loosely—allowing the Lord to change plans and fill our days as He sees fit.”

“I believe this is a biblical mandate,” Ezell says. “I also believe that serving and caring for the fatherless is to reflect the heart of God to a lost world.”

To listen to the “Adopting and Fostering Home” podcast and to follow their stories, visit

Josie Bingham writes for the North American Mission Board.