Show Notes
How should pastors and church leaders confront someone in sin with truth and grace? In this episode of the Revitalize and Replant podcast, Mark Clifton, Mark Hallock, and Dan Hurst discuss practical, biblical guidance for church discipline and restoration, based on an article by Chuck Lawless.
If you’re navigating difficult conversations in ministry, this episode will equip you with a gospel-centered approach to confrontation that prioritizes humility, clarity, and restoration.
12 Ways to Confront Someone in Sin
1. Biblically
Follow the clear guidance of Scripture when addressing sin (see Matthew 18:15–20; Galatians 6:1).
2. Prayerfully
Seek God’s wisdom, discernment, and timing before and during the conversation.
3. Relationally
Confrontation is more effective when built on trust and an existing relationship.
4. Personally
Whenever possible, have the conversation face-to-face or by phone—not through text or email.
5. Humbly
Approach others with a posture of grace, remembering your own need for God’s mercy.
6. Prudently
Ask thoughtful questions rather than making assumptions or accusations.
7. Quickly
Address sin promptly before patterns become more deeply rooted.
8. Clearly
Speak truth directly and avoid vague or indirect language.
9. Redemptively
Keep the goal focused on repentance, healing, and restoration—not winning an argument.
10. Sorrowfully
Allow yourself to feel and express appropriate grief over sin, which can help communicate care and urgency.
11. Lovingly
Let love for God and others shape both your words and tone.
12. Mutually
Communicate your willingness to walk alongside them toward growth and victory.
Key Takeaways for Pastors and Church Leaders
- Biblical confrontation is essential for healthy church leadership.
- The goal is always restoration, not condemnation.
- Tone, timing, and relationship matter just as much as truth.
- Prayer and humility are foundational in every difficult conversation.
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