Mark Clifton and Mark Hallock talk about how to leave a church well—in a way that honors Christ, loves His people, and protects your own spiritual health. Drawing from H.B. Charles Jr.’s article, “When It’s Time to Leave a Church,” they walk through practical steps for transitioning from one church to another with humility and integrity.
In this episode, they unpack 7 ways to leave a church in a healthy, biblical way:
1. Pray
- Seek the Lord earnestly before making any decisions.
- Ask for wisdom, clarity, and a heart that desires God’s glory above your preferences.
2. Examine your motives
- Be honest about why you want to leave.
- Evaluate whether your reasons are rooted in conviction, calling, or frustration and hurt.
3. Review the commitments you’ve made
- Remember membership vows, ministry roles, and responsibilities.
- Think carefully about how to finish well and hand off your areas of service.
4. Deal with unresolved interpersonal conflict
- Don’t use a church transfer to avoid biblical reconciliation.
- Whenever possible, seek peace, forgiveness, and restored relationships before you go.
5. Consider how your departure will affect others
- Reflect on how your decision impacts your family, friends, small group, and church leaders.
- Aim to leave in a way that builds up the church rather than causing division or confusion.
6. Know where you’re going before you leave
- Don’t drift into churchlessness.
- Identify another faithful, gospel-preaching church where you can plug in, submit to leadership, and serve.
7. Have an honest exit conversation with your pastor
- Meet with your pastor or elders to share your decision respectfully.
- Express gratitude, share concerns graciously, and invite them to pray for you as you transition.
This episode is especially helpful for:
- Believers wondering how to leave a church well
- Members processing a potential church transition
- Pastors and leaders shepherding people through church moves
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Listen in for pastoral, practical guidance on leaving a church biblically, guarding unity, and honoring Christ and His bride even in seasons of transition.
